As men, we are prone to committing some typical relationship blunders.This might seem like a very generalist statement to make but some degree of stupidity is coded in our DNA, particularly when it comes to handling women. Most of us don’t even realize that some seemingly trivial mannerisms of ours can weaken our relationships. So, ditch your ego for a few minutes and read ahead about the kind of relationship mistakes most of us are prone to making:
1. Making her feel jealous or insecure
You might talk about your ex-girlfriends or women colleagues who hit upon you to be honest but this can often induce a sense of insecurity within your girlfriend. To a certain extent, talking about such things isn't damaging. In fact, it represents you as a wanted man who is quite appreciated by the fairer sex. But beyond a certain point, it can make her jealous. She could start questioning the shelf-life of your relationship, considering you are almost always being lured by other women. Similarly, being too honest about any of her friends isn't the best thing to do. Be restrained in your poetic description of how good a dress looks on a party-scorcher. Similarly, glancing at other women in her presence will only make it more obvious that you have a roving eye and aren't the dependable type.
2. Not talking to her
This isn't about the daily chit-chat where you take an update about each other’s daily schedule or how things are progressing at the office. This is about having a heart-to-heart conversation where you should seem eager to hear her opinion. Most girls complain about their boyfriends being indifferent to their outlook. This can wedge a gap between you two. You need to be a good listener first to talk in a way that makes her feel connected. Sounding or looking bored when having a conversation with her is also a clear give-away that your mindsets don’t really match.
3. Letting it get regular
Women like to be surprised but men are by nature predictable and like to follow routines. Apart from a few, truly adventurous men, most of us are happy to visit the same hang-out zones and eateries, as if we are seeking some sort of safety. This mundane outlook can soon infect a woman’s mind like a virus, making her feel suffocated. This is why most women start looking-out even when committed in a relationship. Most of us are guilty of letting that surprise factor fade away and that includes the bedroom. A man with some degree of mystique has a greater chance of keep a relationship thriving and not just, alive.
4. Using selfish sex as a solution for everything
Yes, this is something that most guys would agree. We do tend to believe that as long as we are good in the bed or loaded with cash, any relationship problem will self-resolve. However, apart from a few insecure and really vulnerable women, this isn't the truth. If your lady is honestly in love with you, she will seek that soulful connection when having sex. When we try to use sex as a tool to solve problems, it becomes mechanical rather than being pleasurable. Further, many guys are clueless regarding what their women want in bed or they just don’t want to find out. Such a selfish bedroom perspective can be very damaging to a relationship.
5. Not making her feel special
Not complimenting her occasionally or gifting her besides the anniversaries, birthdays and Valentine’s Day celebrations makes it obvious that you appreciate her only for the sake of following traditions. Try to compliment her for the smallest things like the way she sips her tea or curls up her nose when angry.
6. Repeating the same mistakes
This is the last and perhaps, the most common relationship mistakes that men make, i.e. even after realizing the mistakes, they tend to repeat them! This can simply drive her crazy or make her feel helpless, stuck with a man who doesn’t give a damn about her. This could be the real ship-sinker for any relationship.
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