Top 6 Steps to Fix a Bad Kisser

By Sedusa

If you want so know if he loves you so, it’s in his kiss… goes The Shoop Shoop Song. However, if you haven’t been seeing stars each time you lock lips, here’s an easy-as-pie fix-it guide:

Define a good kiss: What, according to you, is a good kiss? Is it something you've seen in romantic movies? Something you've fantasised about after having read those MBs or Cosmos? Once you’ve defined what you like — tongue issues (yes, no, how much, when…), rhythm (slow start versus full-blown action ASAP), etc. — it’s half the battle won.

Down memory lane: Everyone's got a kissing past. Not too hot about with your partner's smooch factor? Ask yourself if you've been making comparisons, subconsciously or not, with your ex(es). Similarly, your current flame has a history too. Perhaps of having gone out with people who kiss equally badly, but it’s not the end of the world.

Judge not in haste: Don't be quick to write him off as irredeemable in the lip service department. Maybe he’s nervous as it’s been long-time-no-kiss for him, maybe he’s intimidated by your feminine charm (mmmm!) or maybe it’s because he really likes you and is trying (too hard) to make a good impression. But if things don’t improve, it’s time to talk about it.

Don’t blurt out the truth: Come on. You just can’t say: “You’re a baaaad kisser”, even if you throw in a “honey” or “sweetie” in the sentence. Instead, lead by example. Tell your partner to close his eyes and slowly do what you would like to be done unto you. Start with slow kisses on his lips, gentle nibbling on them, moving on to some gradual open-mouthed action followed by some enthusiastic tonsil hockey.

Improve what they like: There must be something — even one teeny tiny little thing counts — that you must like about your partner’s kissing moves. Whether it’s the actual mouth action itself, or something he does with his hands (playing with your hair, caressing your body, etc.), compliment him on that. And reciprocate. It’s got to be mutual. Even if you think you’re the Lip Goddess herself.

Wait it out: When you can’t change overnight, it’s unfair to expect someone else to. First things first, be flattered by the fact that he’s taking the initiative to mirror your actions. Keep at it, and you’ll soon be rewarded with a melt-in-his-arms kiss.

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